Taking issues too seriously

The Joy of Sadness

As I look outside my window right now, the storm is gone, and the sun is shining once again. No storm lasts forever. Of course, you can still extend the duration of a storm by identifying with it, becoming attached to it, and following it around wherever it goes. Many people do this with their emotional storms. But if you remain still and simply observe the storm, the storm will soon pass on its own.

When you go out and try to battle a storm, will you ever win? Of course not. You’ll be blown around by the wind and drenched by the rain. The storm will only make you foolish. But when you simply sit back and observe the storm, you may realize that it’s fun to watch. There’s no need to resist these emotional storms, nor to identify with them. They’re a natural part of life in the physical universe.

Part of this article came from: Stevepavlina

I truly identify with what has been said by Steve Pavlina.

Of course, you can still extend the duration of a storm by identifying with it, becoming attached to it, and following it around wherever it goes.

Sharing a small issue about me, I've been known as a guy who's enthusiastic, and having a positvie mental attitude, but with weakness when it comes to sharing my thoughts and controlling my emotions, as said by my BMTC sergeant and PC.

When sometimes, I happen to lose self control, and go into that surge of darkness, where I become disillusioned and lose apparent faith in my friends, I know how positive feedback can be unbalanced. Things go more and more wrong, while I make up more things for them to go wrong.

In other words, I've identified with the storm. And I've moved around with it so much, that I constantly experience it.

In actual fact, no one was in the wrong, only me, for being so negative about normal small things that guys do. It's common that guys don't do area cleaning and becomes reluctant when such a chore comes up, only to accuse others of slacking despite their own laziness, It's all too common, but in these times, I take them too seriously.

I can dare say, what's wrong with me and my working experience with other friends; I expect everyone to show the same level of commitment to whatever task we have, and when they don't I become mad at them. I however don't remain professional and link negative or neutral issues with them in the past to the current. I know it's not right to accuse them of those issues, and I thus keep it to myself, following the storm and appearing too emotional.

It's not easy to say this in a public blog like this, even if it has little readers, but I identify with it because I face it. That's why I'm treating every working experience in army as positively as I can, Where else can I easily find jobs that no one wants to do but someone has to do??

That's a lot to bring home with, since the content of that sentence actually means alot. If you can for once, break out of your ANTS, known as Automatic Negative Thoughts(s), which surfaces almost immediately as a response to what we see and feel, You'll be so much above others. Example of ANTS include, sniping your friends' idea once it's been told to you, immediate thinking of I'm too shagged when told to go for a IPPT test after a 24KM route march.. etc.

Besides these, I've actually been outfield for around 3 days, and it wasn't exactly a good experience, since I had wet boots for the same 3 days, sleeping in them, but I tried to see the bright side of them, and I took it as a bonding with my friends, whom normally other than work, we don't interact together with. I took it additionally as a chance to practice skills when interacting with people. Although I has no way of feedback if I've done it correctly, I'm glad I've tried.

There was this Warrant Ang, whom I wish to comment on. Despite the hatred from the particular platoon being assessed, I found him a tactful person. During the missions, I was darn bored, so when it came to stop points, I'd sit by the side of the road instead of being in vegetation. This was because the vegetation was wet. For me at that point, was that I couldn't care less, my role was almost GODLIKE, and I did so without being scolded. I thought, well, since no one scolded me, I couldn't be wrong.

However, I was awfully wrong. He saw it, but didn't scold me, he just kept quiet. On another day, after the mission during the relaxed times, he told me about it, he didn't want to scolde me despite the fact that he'll be scolded by his commander if I was seen. But why didn't he correct me? His point was that, if he did, I'll be LLST and the rest of the days I'll probably be not happy and won't do a good job. He saw the big picture, and decided which was more important, and went with it. It might sound silly, but it kept me thinking for a few moments about what I could learn from him. I can say, I'd respect him for that, instead of what else he did.