Friendship

There are friends who stick with you because of need or because you provide benefits to them, and there are those who really stick to you, irregardless of what. Being the kind of person I am, I know it's not possible to be the latter to all friends. Firstly, it's too tiring, since that is not really natural, secondly, we all have ourselves first regardless of what. Most likely, sacrificing ourselves for our friends will occur when the pain of losing the friend hurts us more than losing whatever else.

That being so, a friend can only be true to one or 2 others. We can't be true friends who stick through thick and thin to everyone else. I've gave it some thought, and as of now, I can only visualise a few people whom I would give up myself to protect the friendship, mostly because they've first done something for me.

That is the true essence of a friend, though unnatural and takes courage. If you expect all of your friends to stand by you when you're in a pit, that would be wrong. Only the closest will be with you. However, having a true friend in need is good enough. You know you're impacted that someone who stood up for you if he does that for you.

Humans are selfish. I'm not sure what Mother Theresa had in mind when she worked with the sickest and abandoned children, but I believe, she also had personal reasons to do so: to serve god's will. Humans form relationships when they have to get together, to make their life easier, and as they separate, they become merely acquaintances. I hope this doesn't happen to some of my army mates, for I really treasure time with them together. What I do know is, it's possible to continue to forge relationships with them albeit unsuccessfully with them like I've experienced 4 times in a row. As we spilt, somehow I tend to be less forgiving, and we normally part with grudges within us. Yet, when we meet again, we shall forgive each other, and ready to progress on with our relationships if we put in just enough more effort. Sadly, that's not the case.